Every human being is a raw flash memory with infinite capacity. When he learns new things over time as a result of trial and error, he gradually reduces this raw volume. But life opportunities are limited and the things to learn are unlimited. In addition, confusion and misplacement take us of the opportunity to live. It is here that reading the useful experiences of others becomes a valuable treasure that can convey the extracts of years of life in a few short sentences. In this article, we go to the summary of the book ” I Wish I Knew when I Was 20 ” by “Tina Seelig” and look at her suggestions for facing the challenge of life. Stay with us.
“The only source of knowledge is experience.”
Challenge the limits
Our mind, in spite of its amazing power, operates within a certain framework. In fact, it is the limits we set for the functioning of our minds. For example, we do not expect to be able to make more money from our monthly income or to solve an old problem that has become the scourge of our souls over the years in an hour.
Not expecting us does not mean the inability of our minds. Rather, it shows our lack of confidence in ourselves and our abilities. When we do not use the power we have, problems get us stuck in the corner of the ring and each of us cowardly points a handful at us.
If we change our mental attitude, we will face the challenge of life in a different way and instead of “I cannot” say: “it happens!” By saying this we open the door to ourselves through wealth, peace and a life full of excitement lead.
In the challenge of life, beware of the detour
When it comes to changing mental attitudes and considering other ways to solve problems and create opportunities, it does not mean that if we change our view of events, the right path will undoubtedly be in front of us. In fact, the more correct answer is that there are more ways in front of us, which fortunately most of them have something to say and an opportunity to take advantage of.
The path of your life – of course, if you make your own choices – is personalized for you. This path, which is full of surprises, opportunities, threats, challenges and tips, will lead you to a direction that you have already called into your life.
If you look at this story from a distance, you will see a big puzzle, the final image of which was chosen by you. In this game, all your efforts are limited to finding the right piece and putting it in the right place.
The bigger and more magnificent the puzzle, the more pieces it will hold in its heart and the more effort it will require of you.
Some people prefer to choose several small puzzles instead of working on one big puzzle. For them, the pleasure of finishing a game and starting a newer game is much more interesting and exciting than trying to solve a big game.
In both methods, there are different characteristics and worlds. As a result, you cannot say that the path you choose in life is wrong and the path of another person is free from error. Good or bad depends on how you feel and the quality of the results you get from your work.
Being creative is not so hard
One of the interesting approaches that prevents creativity when facing a life challenge is that we think we should have a mentor by our side so that we can come up with creative solutions as it should be.
In fact, we think creativity is an element that only sprouts when we are under the pressure of someone else. If creativity does not need to force our minds and souls at all.
You should not think of yourself as a seed that offers its existential element only when it is thrown into the extractor. You are human and the only thing that gives your creativity a boost is a sense of freedom and ignorance of limitations.
The best painters painted their most memorable images when they wrote without any pressure and only for themselves.
The most beautiful texts and novels entered the human world when their author turned on the “free writing” button in his mind to put on paper whatever was going on in his busy mind, regardless of any factor.
It can be said that the biggest culprit of this way of thinking and interest in conscious limitations is lack of self-confidence and fear of life challenges. There is a simple way to do this. All you have to do is target the small challenges and use your creativity to solve them.
In this case, when your mind tastes “doing” and “finishing”, it turns it into a step that poses bigger challenges by stepping on it.
Remember, creativity comes from your passion for problem solving. If you see the problem as a solvable challenge or an award-winning puzzle, all your fears and anxieties turn into a tempting desire to discover creative solutions.
You might say, “How can I love my problem?” “Problems are not lovable.” Of course, you are right. Problems are not lovable. But your life is lovely after solving these challenges and taking on a new shape. When confronted with problems, you picture your life without them in front of your eyes, you will find the passion and motivation to solve them.
Use your own rules while facing life challenges
All human beings are confronted with an inexhaustible list of laws from the moment they reach a normal understanding of their surroundings, that is, childhood. These rules range from the right way to say hello to the way people think.
The leap in your life happens when you break these rules and get your own rules out of them. It is then that you, as a human being, determine the realm for your thoughts and the challenges of your life.
Of course, setting personal rules does not mean breaking the norm and hurting others. In fact, the goal is to think a little before we make any decision based on the rules set by others, and to look at it from our own perspective.
After all, sometimes the number of laws we make for ourselves is no less than the laws that exist outside of us.
Maybe it’s not bad sometimes to identify and break your inner limiting laws. Because creativity, new opportunities and a new way of life are waiting for you beyond these stagnant and meaningless rules. Let me give you an example of some of these cumbersome internal rules:
- Do not tell others your thoughts. Otherwise, they either make fun of it or steal ideas.
- You have to behave according to your capabilities.
- Do not think of impossible things and longings. Be realistic.
- Always listen to others. Otherwise, they will exclude you from their group.
- Too much effort is a sign of greed. Be content with what you have.
- You cannot fight your fate. Surrender.
- Be like everyone else. You should not play the opposite instrument.
There are many people living on the earth who have proven that breaking such laws not only has amazing consequences but is a necessary step in life.
As a result, you do not need to be afraid to break such rules. In my opinion, seeing yourself at the age of 99, while you are full of regret and sadness for doing things that you never dared to go to, is much scarier than accepting the risk of breaking these rules!
Just do it!
Drawing and sketching are some of the things that anyone can do with a little research. But what has kept many people waiting behind the gates of success is not to work and not to do.
Some have an interesting excuse for doing so. In fact, they are waiting for someone to find them and let them do something new. It is as if they are conditioned in their minds to get permission from others.
If you do not want your life to change easily with the monsoon winds, do not let them do new things. Because in many cases, they are conditioned on one thing, and that is that they think that if they could not do something themselves, or did not even think of doing it, then others can not, and according to their mental laws at all. They should not do such things.
Fortunately or unfortunately, opportunities do not wait for the permission of others. In fact, there are no more than two modes; either you take the opportunity or you give it to someone else who is more enthusiastic and fearless than you.
Listen to the voice of your heart
Basically, we humans do everything in our lives not to listen to the voice of our heart and twist it. Because we think to ourselves that listening to our inner voice will not make any huge difference. Following this story, we fight with ourselves for years, torment ourselves by doing things we do not like, wrestle with life challenges, and waste our lives in vain.
In the meantime, if we are lucky, we fall to the ground and as a result of this blow, all the sounds around us are turned off at once. At that time, what is heard is the voice within us. Then we come to ourselves and say: “It is not far-fetched! I mean, really interesting! ”
But you do not have to go through such a tortuous path to listen to your heart. Here, too, you can take full advantage of the trick of imagining yourself at the age of 99.
Imagine you are 99 years old now and there is nothing left for your 100th birthday. How do you feel? What regrets burn in your heart like molten fire and send sighs out of your body? What kind of advice does your 99-year-old self have for your current self? This is what you need to do in your life.
Whatever you do, whatever decision you make, think about your 99-year-old self and see if you want to keep the regret of doing it or not doing it in your heart until you are 99 years old and drag it out until you can no longer do anything useful.
Risk-taking is not something genetic or even monotonous
Different people exhibit a non-uniform level of risk-taking on a variety of topics. For example, a stock market venture investor invests in controversial stocks that are more likely to lose than profit. But the same person never accepts the risk of jumping from a height of several thousand feet or is not satisfied at any cost to speak in front of three thousand people.
Therefore, seeing a face in people’s lives, one should not classify them into risky or risk-averse categories or perceive that risk-takers are more successful than risk-takers.
The best way is to look at different aspects of ourselves under a magnifying glass and get a summary of the extent and extent of our risk-taking. Such knowledge can help us make important decisions.
Remember, using the experience of those who once walked your current path is the best way to anticipate risks, plan for life challenges, and make big decisions.
Choose between being pro and enthusiastic
We all have things in our lives that, we feel perfect when we think about doing them. For instance, some people like to become an international chef where many people from all over the world go to great lengths to eat their food, while others love to sing, play music, play football or even invest in financial markets. Yet, not all of these people succeed in their favorite jobs.
Since there is no fit or even common ground between their passion and their abilities. For example, one might think of becoming a football goalkeeper, but his physical condition such as height, weight and even the endurance of his heart do not give him the opportunity to work as a goalkeeper for a football team.
On the other hand, some people like to do something only in their minds, and when the action opens up, they realize that they are not so eager. For example, one might wish to become the chef of a five-star hotel. But he is never willing to stand at the stove for hours and work with food.
In fact, understanding the extent to which we are interested in different subjects can prevent us from wasting our lives.
If we are really interested in something but we cannot bear the burden of doing it, then we are not eager to do it and we are just a staunch supporter of that story.
Passion and experience are an interconnected flow
Some people are born with a special talent or indescribable interest in a subject. You may have seen children draw before playing or playing the piano before walking. But in reality, the number of such pure talents is very small.
Unfortunately, this perspective often causes us to become overwhelmed when it comes to painting a picture about ourselves and our children.
In this way, if their abilities are manifested from childhood, they consider themselves talented, and otherwise, they consider themselves incompetent and broken. While the natural process of talent identification is the acquisition of various experiences.
Simply put, you may have tremendous talents that can only be explored through experience. Do you think you have no talent for music? Have you ever touched the piano keys with your own hands? Do you think you have no talent for pottery and visual arts? Have you ever made a clay cup with your own hands?
Experience is the key that opens the door to latent talent. If you have not yet realized your talent, it means that you have not gained enough experience.
You have to conquer the luck
Luck is a challenging subject. Many people look for luck throughout their lives and think that getting a chance means success, happiness and well-being. However, what is at the heart of the challenge of life and the events we are witnessing prove otherwise.
Luck is not a magic bird that we can take advantage of to get the best out of it.
In fact, it’s the amount of effort, the amount of passion and our determination to achieve a particular success that creates the chance.
Of course, I still think it is far from fair to base the result of all our day-to-day efforts on a concept called luck.
In fact, the story is that the combination of our passion, interest, effort and purposefulness changes the energy we send to the universe. As a result, we get people who we do not even think of talking to, we find ourselves in a place where ordinary people cannot be present, and we receive job offers that challenge our sleep or wakefulness.
The work is started by us, it moves forward, and as much as the power we have given it, it fills us with incredible adventures.
Build stone bridges between yourself and others
We are building a network of communications every day of our lives. Some of these connections are good and strong, and others seem so weak that at any given moment we are likely to tear the bridge apart.
Over time, these strong and weak invisible strings become wooden steps that we and others pass through.
However, sometimes we conclude that we have to set fire to some of these stairs so that there is no longer any communication between us and the other party.
Instead, we decide to turn some wooden stairs into stone steps and expand our friendship or cooperation with others to the size of the years we will be breathing.
The bridges that have been built between you and others, whether wooden or stone, are the paths on which you walk more than others. So you should not easily decide to destroy the bridges between yourself and others.
Even if your relationship with a company or person is as weak as a wooden bridge, holding it still benefits you more than setting it on fire.
Nothing in this world is absolute and eternal. Maybe one day you decide to hit a stone bridge with a hammer and use its pieces to stone a loose wooden bridge. So build as many bridges as you can and only destroy the bridges if you have no choice.
Be generous in thanking or asking for forgiveness
The challenge of life is full of different days with good or challenging adventures. It is our attitude that makes those days good and memorable or painful.
In the midst of this inexhaustible oscillation between goodness and challenge, people come our way who, like an angel, help us or come to us in the worst possible situation, causing us to play the role of a demon or a bad person.
Sometimes these things and the reactions we show are strange and unacceptable to ourselves. We may not have much control over our reactions when we are involved in our story, but after the affair ends, we need to come to our senses and put our behaviors under a magnifying glass.
In that case, if someone was angelic and helped us as much as he could, we should be grateful to him and give him a warm hand. Even if we hurt someone in that situation, we should put our pride behind the door and apologize from the other side with a heart that regrets and admits our mistake.
These two human behaviors, gratitude and apology, make us worthy of receiving the best opportunities and working or living with the best people on earth.
Remember, the more you delay giving thanks, the less flames you have, and the more you ignore apologies and apologies to others, the deeper the harm you do to others.
Doing everything on time is the key to enjoying the blessings of this world.
What was the author’s main message in this book?
In “What I Wish I Knew when I was 20,” Tina Seelig talks about her work experiences training creative entrepreneurs for the world’s top companies and her life-challenging experiences as a searcher.
She believes that school and academic education alone cannot cover all the knowledge and tips needed by individuals to be active, useful and successful in society. For this reason, Tina gathered the results of her experiences in the form of this book so that she could find a way to teach these points to others.